Hi Jami,
It's unlikely you suddenly turned into a bad sailor.
I think you've probably hit the nail on the head with option (a). There just isnt enough space between the jiblets and the main for all the air coming off the jiblets to escape, without running into the luff of the main. The collapsing main is going to reduce the forward vector of power being produced as well.
While increasing the jib sheeting angle should in theory mean you can't point as high, perhaps the less restricted flow of air of a wider slot might improve the overall power being developed.
One disadvantage of the SJR is that we can't ease out the jib to open up the gap. It does sound like there's a lot of air trying to squeeze through the gap. As can be seen in your video, when the gust increases so does the backwinding of the main, which seems to indicate a lack of space for the air to escape.
I wonder if you are pointing as high as you really can despite what the telltales are saying?
Might you try, purely for experimentation, to luff up slowly until the jibs are just being backwinded and see if your tacking angle and VMG speed improves. See what the telltales are doing as well, at that time.
Also, close-hauled angle is not the only game in town. Your Velocity Made Good upwind is also a consideration, I suppose.
I suppose, again for experimentation, before getting out the sewing machine again, you could try moving the main panel back from the Mast and/or the jiblets forward to see if a larger gap might do the trick before sewing yet more panels or lenses to increase the sheeting angle of the jibs.
Though of course moving the main back is likely to increase weather helm a bit again.
The above suggestions might be worth a look before dragging out the sewing machine again.
regards DaveD.