Graham,
I do wish that your sailmaker had called me over to help in laying out your sail, or at least to have seen the finished product, since I was very close to him at the time. I've a hunch that he may have misinterpreted the drawing, resulting in the positive stagger that you're now finding. A pity, but it's water under the keel now.
I think that a parallelogram panel needs to be designed with camber in mind, adapting the PJR rules a little. PJR recommends that the diagonal from clew to throat of each panel shall be 1% less than the length along the lower edge. It seems to me that the panel, as it is laid flat on the loft floor before any camber is built in with tucks, broad seam or shelves, should have a diagonal that is 1.5% to 2% less than the length of the lower edge - measured corner to corner, not along the edge. It's difficult to be dogmatic about this amount - it will depend on the amount of camber and the depth of the panel - but I don't see why a HM sail can't have cambered panels if the diagonals are shortened up by rather more than 1%. If I were making such a sail with a generous amount of camber, I'd be inclined to make just one test panel first.
As for the fantail sail - I took great pains over the design of this planform. I can report that on Tystie, as on Fantail, the aft ends of the sheeted battens stack nicely one above the other, without having to take any particular care over how the sail is lowered. I don't need any positive stagger, since the deck blocks are a long way aft of the leech, but I would expect there to be some, if the sail were to be cut flat, rather than with 6% camber in the lower panels.